In my book Grateful for Everything, I write about meeting a lot of very happy people on my journey. Although we all have our share of pain and difficulties, these individuals seem to have developed habits that allow them routine access to a level of happiness that many of us may not experience as often as we would like. Here are 5 of those traits I have noticed that they exhibit, which I believe we can all learn and benefit from.
1. They are generous.
Really happy people seem to be effortlessly generous. They understand that there will be “plenty to go around”, and so they are more than willing to share time, money or resources to help other people.
And by the way, in the minds of exceptionally happy people, there is no such thing as a worry about being taken advantage of—the reward lies in simply meeting a perceived need.
2. They smile and laugh—a lot.
Very happy people seem to have this aura of “Hey, life is short and life is what I make of it so I think I’ll make it fun.” Everywhere they go people seem to welcome them with open arms and open hearts. Why? Because through their actions and outlooks, exceptionally happy people reflect to others how good life really can be for all of us.
3. They’re good listeners.
Exceptionally happy people regularly and gladly listen to others. They know that through valuing other people’s thoughts and ideas, not only will they develop positive and enriching relationships, but they may actually learn something new.
Their security and happiness isn’t based on having to boast or prove themselves, so they can easily sit back and genuinely, empathetically listen.
4. They use a language of success and belief.
They are optimistic and choose to align their actions and words with that mindset. Happy folks talk about possibilities, adventures and opportunities, instead of problems, obstacles and impending potential disasters. They thrive on sharing encouragement, and they relish the small and large victories of people in their lives.
Consequently, they seem to find more and more goodness in their lives and the lives of others around them.
5. They are grateful.
Exceptionally happy people know that a thankful attitude not only makes them—and the people around them—feel good, it connects them to an unseen yet incredibly powerful world of love, kindness, courage, trust and contentment.
They know it’s the main ingredient in living an enriched life.
As you may have noticed, these skills are available to each of us and therefore that same high level of happiness, is also available to each of us. Although they seem simple, these habits are not necessarily easy to cement into our core values. So, let’s take one trait at a time, raise the bar on it in our lives, and watch what happens.
The results may just be… “exceptional.”